>> 17 November 2010
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” -- --John Pierpont Morgan
That is indeed the very first step. And it is the most important one.
So let's stay with it for a minute here and analyze what it really means.
Many people have realized that something needs to change, that something is not right. And they keep looking for the kind fairy to spin her wand and miraculously make it all right.
Well, let me tell you another secret:
There are no miracles. There are no fairies.
And even if there were, you would still be stuck at the first step.
YOU need to DECIDE that you are NOT going to STAY where you are.
Read that again.
So you, need to take an action to create movement. As simple as that.
Many people are stuck or unhappy and they know it. They moan about everything to everyone. But they don't do anything about the situation. They complain that it's too complicated, too difficult, too risky or that they just don't know where to start.
So let me tell you another secret:
Once you have decided that you don't want to stay where you are, all it takes is a small step.
You don't need to stop smoking by tomorrow (that would be very smart, but very hard).
You don't have to loose 20 pounds in a week (that wouldn't be very smart and probably very unhealthy).
You don't have to start your business by the end of next month (that would be possible but you would just feel overwhelm and experience no fun).
All you need to do is take a small step:
Tell someone you would like to stop smoking (tell them tomorrow). Or, buy some nicotine patches to see how they can help you reach your goal (buy some by the end of this week).
Take out some pictures of yourself when you liked the way you looked and stick them on the bathroom mirror (do that tomorrow). Make an appointment with your doctor in view of making a weight loss plan with him (do that by next week).
- Make a list of all the things that need to be done (by the end of the week). Then break each big step up into small steps and those again into smaller, doable steps (do that by the end of this month).
- experience completion along the way (and hey, you can celebrate the little successes!)
- remain motivated
- experience fun
- keep up momentum (once one step is finished, another one is already lined up)
- experiencing overwhelm
- giving up before you even really started
- being stressed and bitchy and no fun
Martin Luther King, Jr.
Baby step by baby step, you have what you need right now to start moving in the direction of your happiest dreams.
Marta Davidovich Ockuly
It is better to take many small steps in the right direction than to make a great leap forward only to stumble backward.
All great things have small beginnings.
Every change starts in a small step.