>> 29 December 2010
- A loose button on your shirt that you have meant to mend for weeks.
- Your grandma's old china that you never use but keep anyway.
- An old grudge against an old friend.
- Unworn clothes in your wardrobe.
- Gifts you received but don't really like.
- Fear of failure in your future business
- The oil change your car is in desperate need of.
- The rented DVDs you need to return.
- The filing you need to do.
Clutter doesn't have to be a physical object (like the candle holder you got for your birthday that fits neither next to the television nor with the colors of your living room).
Clutter can also take the form of a thank you note that you have meant to write but didn't, a dentist's appointment you know you should make but keep 'forgetting'.
Whether it's the physical or incomplete clutter, they both drain your energy: every time you see them and they bother you, every time you think about them being unfinished.
My coach told me that you get up in the morning with 100 units of energy.
This is the energy you need to focus on your life, your intention, your passion, your happiness, the things you want to achieve.
Every time you come across some clutter, some units are taken away from you.
You are leaking energy towards either past events (the grudge your holding against your old friend), or imagined future events (fear of failing in your future business)
And these leaks keep you from focusing on what's important in the present: your goals, your intention, your future business, your healthy teeth, your car not breaking down.
The above list of clutter didn't arrive on your doorstep this morning. You have been piling them up over the last months or even years (remember those old books and photos from university? when was the last time you look at them?).
And it is impossible to get rid of them all in a day. You need to proceed in small steps:
- Make a list: You can't fix what you can't name.
(A4 landscape, make three columns)
For the physical clutter, it is easiest to go around your house and write down what bothers you. Divide the list into each room of the house.
Don't start with the basement.
Take the least cluttered room, the bedroom for example (write down in first column):
- Dirty socks on the floor
- Coat hangers on the dresser
- Clothes on the chair
- Shirt with missing button
- Old, ugly wallpaper
- I hate the color and pattern of the bed sheets
- That statue doesn't fit there
- Kids toys under our bed
Don't pick things up. Don't start clearing things away. Don't start being overwhelmed.
Just write them down.
- Make another list:
(A4 landscape, make three columns)
For the incomplete (or unfinished) clutter, create another list. Empty your brain (first column):
- Make dentist appointment
- Write thank you note
- Make service appointment for the oil change
- Clear grudge with old friend
- Understand the purpose:
These two list you have created are not TO DO Lists.
They are there to:
- make you aware that these items drain your energy
- make you start repairing those energy leaks
- give your brain a break (it's on the list, I don't have to continuously think about them)
- Create actions: you can't fix it if you don't know how
- Take two items of one of the two lists (pick those that are easily doable/fixable) and circle them.
- In the second column, write down how you can fix this problem - you can write down multiple solutions:
- find a place for the statue
- give to my cleaning lady (ask her first! you don't want to make your clutter hers!)
- bring to the Salvation Army
- In the third column, write down a completion date.
- Do these two items this week.
- Don't over-unclutter:
Next week, pick another 2 or 3 items off one of the two lists, add a solution, and do them during the week.
- Feel victory:
As you start accomplishing more and more of these actions, notice the difference.
- Welcome success:
As you start literally cleaning up your life and space, you are getting rid of leaks that drain your energy. This energy can now be used to create the life you intended for. You are able to focus and success will naturally follow.
- Future leaks:
Although you will create new habits which prevent most energy drains, it is normal that over time, small leaks creep in. Now you have the tools to identify and fix them.
If something is not going so well in the future, ask yourself which energy drain might be the cause of it. Maybe you didn't exercise enough, lag behind in your filing or haven't had a massage in a year. Put it on the leak list and fix it this week!