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Creativity tip - Don't listen to other people

>> 29 August 2010

I hope not to disappoint those of you who came here every Sunday for a good laugh. I don't think you were too many anyway :-)

But I have decided to change my Sunday regular theme from laughter to creativity.

So welcome to the first Sunday creativity tip!

DON'T LISTEN TO OTHER PEOPLE

We all happen to have great ideas.

Or at least we think they are great ideas.

Until we talk to someone about it.

Because even (or should I say especially) our best friend, the one that loves us no matter what, can kill that great though in the bud. Floop.

Why is it that we pay so much attention to what other people think about our ideas?

We want validation.
We want people to love us.
We want them to agree with us.

We are really very, very insecure about whether this is at all a great idea and we'd actually prefer to just hand it over to someone else to test it out for us...

But real life doesn't work like that.

We really do all have great ideas. Actually, the more ideas you have, the more GOOD ideas you will have and the better you will get at sifting through the crappy ones.

But the biggest obstacle is the beginning phase, the budding  phase of our idea. Because the more we seek for approval, the more refusal we will get.

As my coach said it wisely: 'When you plant a seed, the first thing that comes up is the dirt.'

As long as we are prepared for the dirt, we're safe.
So go ahead, share your ideas with the world. Maybe even listen to people (some comments may even be valid and end up improving your idea).

But STOP listening to other people when it comes to whether or not you should go and do the think you have just come up with.

I am not saying that you should just jump up and do every silly little think you think about.
Where would we be?!
But you know what I mean by 'having an idea'.

You have this plan to change your workplace by introducing creative workshops.
You want to introduce community services to your very conservative, stockmarket focused workplace.
You have this vision of a new art project.

Yes, go ahead and use people as sounding boards.
But listen between the lines and only pick out the constructive stuff.
Sometimes you just have to ship to see what comes out of it.

Don't them tell you your idea is crap!!! Only YOU have the right to decide that!

6 comments:

Sangita 29 August 2010 at 08:26  

Hi Mindful Mimi, Glad to know that you have initiated the "Sunday Creativity Tip". Your this Sunday's tip is Great, and I do agree with your all spoken thoughts here about 'not listening to others' this thing really works out. Your nicely presented ideas impressed me. I won't fail to read your every Sunday Creativity Tip. Keep It Up!

Lance 29 August 2010 at 11:52  

Miranda,
Love the new Sunday direction!

And creativity is a subject that suits you so well, as you truly shine at touching not only that creative genius in you, but also in evoking that in others! What a wonderful gift!!

And your words today are ones that are so good for me to hear. It's all too easy to focus on the dirt, and forget all the rest...

MindFul MiMi 29 August 2010 at 13:50  

@Sangita: Thanks for visiting and I am glad to hear you will be back. I will try to deserve that :-) I constantly try not to listen to others. It's like quitting smoking or drinking - it's an ongoing process :-)

@Lance: Hey, it's been a while. Glad you like the switch to creativity and topic of today. It was getting tough finding funny videos I must say :-) How is the training going?

Tim 30 August 2010 at 05:41  

Hi Mimi:

Some great thoughts on creativity! I know here in the U.S. we seem so concerned about what other people (whether it be our neighbors or even business competitors) are doing and what they think. I agree with you that sometimes we just need to follow our heart and express ourselves anyway. Thanks for your enlightenment!

MindFul MiMi 30 August 2010 at 21:45  

Hi Tim,
Glad I enlightened you. Yes, why is it that we sometimes care so much about what others think? Even total strangers or your neighbors (those might be the same people). Because we were never really taught to trust our judgment, to be entrepreneurial, fail. We want everyone's approval BEFORE we launch anything - cause Oh my! it could fail or people might not like it...
Seth Godin said it rightly when he said that one should just ship things instead of procrastinating in seeking approval.
Take care.
M

Preppy Pink Crocodile 31 August 2010 at 09:46  

Oh I am terrible at putting more value in what others think too. So I tend to keep a lot to myself until it's said and done with.

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